I finally caved in...

I'd rather let chaos reign and let the melt go where it may. :thumbsup:

 

WOW Congratulations man!!!


I hope my Ole Lady don't see this, we've been together 13 years now and still aren't even close to getting married LMAO


MAD MAX

 

LOL@ Max.....nahhh maybe like you should does not think one has to get married to validate love. It is not for everyone.....just depends on the person. Will not lie, I did the marriage thing, and highly doubt I would again unless it was for health insurance for your significant other. Other then that, I just think sometimes ppl change but some keep it all in perspective and do not let it change the love they have. :thumbsup:


Besides, Max you may change your mind one day .....people have to want to and not be forced IMO. If you both are happy now the way things are.....do not fix something that is not broken.

 

Too true Mermaid.....


I've been with her longer than most of my buddies have been married so.......


It works for us.....


Plus she can testify if needed LMAO!!!!


MAD MAX

 

I agree with the whole 'not being married' thing myself. So does my woman. I can't explain why but this just feels right. There were other factors involved including a 15 yr old who just had her father walk out on her as well as legal aspects.


I really think that if not for the kid neither of us would worry too much about the marriage thing. Both of us could take it or leave it to be honest. Commitment is in the heart...not on a piece of paper, but to that kid....it means much more. She needs to see that I'm not gonna run out on her and her mom as her father did. That's led to a much better relationship between she and I lately too. She's excited about it and has accepted me in a way she resisted for over two years now. That's a good thing because I have a lot to teach the young padewan. :thumbsup:


What really cinched it for me though was waking up one day and realizing that I don't wish to be with any other woman for the rest of my living days. At this point she and I walk the same path and it looks to be a long road ahead. Only time will tell how it all plays out, but at least this way....we'll have the added strength in our union....legally. I lost my ass on the last one and never got any of it back.....I've nothing left to lose. I figure...why not...maybe this time I'll win out. So far it seems to be holding true. I've got a great woman who stands at my side and loves me dearly...that in itself makes me a winner.

 

Taking into consideration your last marriage did you get a pre-nup? I know they are horrible but you never can tell the future.

 

Why would I want to do that? Then I wouldn't be entitled to half.


We're not married yet BTW. Not for another year or better. Who knows....a lot can happen between now and then. Right now we're simply engaged.....I'm not completely out of my mind. :icon_confused:

 

Yeah, she'd be the one better off getting a pre-nup

 

Funny thing there is that neither of us has anything of substance. Half of nothing either way is still nothing.


All I have to do is get her parents to will me the land and two houses....then I'm set.


Good thing they like me. :fly:

 

Lol if you got a sugar momma rock out with your cock out!

 

I get what your saying but that is another reason IMO why I would never marry as well. If I did not trust the man to where I had to get a pre-nup then lol that would be a BIG red flag that I should not be marrying him. Yah yah....I know ppl take advantage or marry for money but if one needs to get that along with the license to marry, then smoke a fattie and think about what your getting into. If you think about it and feel you need a pre-nup then obviously deep down, you do not trust them right??


Anywhos.....not that I am against those who marry but been there...did that.


Next time I fall in love, rather just live happily ever after with no paper of ownership. Honestly I think unless one needs health benefits for their significant other, why even bother if your in love? Although I can see where if children are involved, yah it may make them feel more at ease but still think the best relationships are the ones based on love and what you promise to one another with no paper. Maybe I am just bitter since my divorce or possibly that whole BS little girls are fed from the time they are born. Yanno.....ohhh you meet the man of your dreams, get married, have kids with the white picket fence and grow old to live happily ever after. Ummm then you end up divorce, pay thousand or more to go thru it all and what your left with is a broken heart with a fairy tale gone bad...haha


I rather have less drama, know either one can walk should they want to or choose if it comes down to that and no court or that mumbo jumbo. Hell if anything, I would just as soon go to a beach alone with the one I loved, pledge our love with no paper but the promise we make to one another for that is IMO what it is all about.


Shame ppl who do live together for years can't add the other to their insurance or things like that ......hmmmmm they need to pass a law IMO for that eh?


But to all those who believe in marriage .....much positive vibes and may all your dreams come true