So, I was hanging out at this house last night, and this guy invited some girls over. I heard him mention something about one or two of the girls being, well, loose... They came over and we were hanging out, me being my quiet weird self, and one of the girls said I looked like Harry Potter with my glasses. I don't know if she thought I was a weirdo or was just being funny or flirting. The thing that got to me was that I went into the adjacent room to where we were hanging out to get the acoustic guitar. When I came back in, the girl that was giving me the most attention, this chunky but cute teenage girl, said "oh, (my name), there you are, I was just gonna come in there with you" or something... sooo, I don't know what that means. I am a little socially awkward (shy in most people's view) and I kind of keep to myself... I made eye contact with her a couple of times but didn't talk to her... she seemed to talk to me more than any other of my friends. I don't know if my Harry Potterness was too weird for her, but I like to think that maybe at least some girls like me, even if I have big round glasses and not trendy thick rims or whatever. Otherwise, I am thin and decent looking. Basically, I would have hooked up with her had I known for sure she was into me... she was a cute little thing and I'd grab that chunky butt, heheh. But now I probably won't see her again. Sucks. Now I am thinking of going back there today to maybe see if anyone is around... How do I know, though? I am terrible with women.
Man I'll tell you what. You are young,and you have nothing to lose by making a move. Get on with your game while you still can. Before you know it you will meet a woman, and fall in love, marriage, kids, house, STRESS, blah, blah, blah. I wish I would have jumped at all the trim that has passed by me before the aforementioned.
keep in mind that 'loose girls' have low self-esteem. they look for someone to hook up with because when they're successful, they feel loved. i hate to say it, but loose girls don't care how you look. they just want to get "loved" for awhile. they're only interested in their needs, not yours. i'm not telling you to ignore them. i'm telling you to go for it, have fun, and follow pie's advice to wrap it up. but don't get all emotionally involved with her or you'll be asking us how to handle the mess you've gotten into. don't put down how you look! you are a very special individual. concentrate on the talents you have or the ones you're working on, like being more sociable/learning how to talk to girls, etc. there's a special someone out there for you, FTM, but you've got to weed thru a bunch of loonies before you find her! it's called life. enjoy yourself! if somebody gets hot for you, enjoy it for what it is, but keep in mind it's probably going to be a short-term relationship. but please use a condom. you don't want any sexually-transmitted diseases, or a baby.
QUOTE Quote: from Lemonpie on 12:22 pm on Nov. 7, 2004 Just do it! Go! Oh yeah, if anything were to ummm, well, wrap it! :LOL: exactly! mary made some very good points, too. loose girls are loose because they have no problem dropping one dude to chase after another -- or at least they seem to be fine with it. anyway, you might just find out that you like each other, but you won't know anything if you're too cautious...just take caution with the, err, uhhh i like what sublime says: "strap with protection or struck with disease"
yipp if ya take a girl out for the first time and ya get laid 2hr's in too the date..MOST of the time i never saw that gal again...BUT hey wtf like mary said enjoy it while ya can just be safe.....But hayyyy them was tha good o'll days from what i rememberBud3
Man I wish I was in your shoes again....those were the days. From the jist of your story....sounded like this las was hungry for some morning wood.(punn intended) Next time ya run into one of the gals....ask the "chunky" butt gal "you mind if I take a bite out of your butt?"Youll score believe me! Mary made some exceptional points.....listen to em!
Yeah im a little shy round the ladies to bro, especially ones im attracted to. Dont sweat it man, ive learned over the years girls cannot resist a guy that is quiet and ignores her except for innocent glances. Plus like he said tell her you just wanna grab her ass and take a bite, But make sure you use "sarcasim". She probably laugh to herslef and think you're cute. Im tellin ya man, some girls cannot resist a quiet shy guy, they think its cute and sometimes they'll flirt with ya just cause they know it makes you blush. But like they said also, which im even realizing now too is, These are the best years of you life to mess with tha ladies. Imma take that advice too...
Do not sleep with skank ho's. Your question suggests that yu are young and inexperienced. Why go thru all of the emotional bullshit that sex brings with it? Hell, Those girls you want to sleep with are fucked up emotionally or they wouldn't be fucking every one. Young people and sex do not match. wait until your emotionally mature and research the **** out of sex. Sex is just like anything else. Tne more yu know the better off yu are. besides if they are sluts and yu are Average in the size department then the sex will suck for sure! nothing like stikin your dick in a warm glass of water I mean a big ole loose pussy whose owner will let any dick stick it to her. have respect for your body and don't share "it" with just anyone. Masterbation is a good thing.
" Before you know it you will meet a woman, and fall in love, marriage, kids, house, STRESS, blah, blah, blah" I don't know about that one Star. I am sort of a loser. I work part-time, with my mom, and it doesn't seem to be going anywhere else. "i hate to say it, but loose girls don't care how you look. they just want to get "loved" for awhile. they're only interested in their needs, not yours." Well, I think I made a mistake by saying she was loose. And, she didn't seem to have low self-esteem. She seemed like she was just having a good time, and she wasn't all over me or anything. Honestly, the most I was hoping for was a make-out session and, like I said, to grab her ass. I don't live that close to where I was hanging out, and neither did she. It's not like we would have sex there, if that were to happen. I don't drive a car, and I take the train to get to this place, so the only way anything could happen is if she drove or came home with me on the train, and then we would have to walk in the cold to my house from the train station. Girls love that, right? Thanks for your advice, though. All of the stuff you mentioned about loose girls, low self-esteem etc., I completely understand and have thought it over. Yes, I am a little unexperienced, and that's why I should take moments like this for granted. You have to work your way up. If I don't at least start making out with girls, I'll probably just grow even more depressed and start contemplating suicide.
QUOTE I'll probably just grow even more depressed and start contemplating suicide FTM, if you still feel that way in the morning, PM me please. I know how that feels. I spend much of my time talking to sad people and I try to help them see things in a different perspective, without judgement. HUG to you. (Edited by Lemonpie at 10:08 am on Nov. 8, 2004)
FTM, do you have a doctor you can go to and tell him/her about the depression you are experiencing? there are some wonderful drugs he/she can prescribe for you which will help a hell of a lot with the feelings you are experiencing. and the sooner you do that, the better. k?
fromthemorning, how much pot do you smoke? i'm 20, and havent had a real relatiionship with a girl in like 4 years. i've slept witha couple, but afterwards i always realize that some ass isnt what i'm looking for. theres so much more to a relationship than gettin yer dick wet! granted i wouldnt mind some confidence building sex with a strange girl who i'll never see again. I tend to get down on myself for thinking about treating a woman like a piece of flesh. i've come to the conclusion that i'd rather have a 3 hour conversation and save the sex for later on in the relationship. like marriage/baby time. no way do i want little smotpoker's out n about before my time. i asked how much you smoke, because if its most everyday, try taking a couple month hiatus. i am in week 2 of no reefing and i can already feel my head clear, my opinions solidify, and my confidence in the real world gaining. i think that pot calms my energy so i am more submissive and would rather sit around and not say much. But after a couple days without the pot my mind springs into action and i start bouncing off walls for a couple days. still trying to focus my mind this morning. as far as skank ho's.....i like what george roberts has to say peace
Lemonpie. I wasn't even depressed when I typed that. But, in general, I struggle with social anxiety disorder, which leaves me depressed, because my relationships with others aren't that strong, I don't open up, I let myself get walked over and used, etc. No, I don't have a doctor I can talk to about getting meds. I don't have any health insurance since I turned 22. I'm basically dead if something bad happens to me. I have read up a good deal on meds and which ones are good for anxiety. I know that popping a valium now and then when I get nervous would help, and if I were to get prescribed, I'd prefer Xanax or similar meds, and I wouldn't just take them to get high, ya know? I'd use them responsibly. How much pot do I smoke? I'm probably a disgrace to this forum (not really, though), because I don't smoke much at all anymore, but when I do, probably 2-3 times a day. Maybe it's because I don't have it. When I do, I am very conservative and try not to smoke just to smoke, ya know? BTW, I miss my vaporizer. Weed did not disappear nearly as fast when I had it working... I moved, so I don't have a connection anymore. I have to take the train or bike back to where I lived, which is about 6 miles away, and even then it's hard to get herb when I want it. That's why I am seriously considering growing my own. I bought a 250 hps and have a 95watt CFL, so I am almost ready to start. But, I figure not having herb all of the time is a good thing. Saves me money, and not to mention mental stability. Herb is only good for me when I want to kill time, jam on guitar, kick back and watch TV in my room, work on my hobbies. Getting high around an unfamiliar group of people, or people that aren't stoned themselves, isn't my thing most of the time. Honestly, I post on this forum to continuously update my knowledge and also to look at all of your beautiful gardens. I never even used to smoke. I think I approach it from a horticultural perspective, as I was pretty delved into plants before I even starting getting high. "granted i wouldnt mind some confidence building sex with a strange girl who i'll never see again." Honestly, I didn't think she was the bang and forget type. I liked her personality, her figure, but it was only for a couple of hours, so who knows. Mainly, yes, I do just want to get laid. I've only gotten laid with a 43-year-old woman that I wasn't into, and messed around with "loose" girls and mainly messed up relationships that started via internet and didn't last long. Well, thanks again for your suggestions everyone. Knowing myself, I probably WILL NOT hook up with a "skank ass hoe" or anything, so don't worry. My anxiety tends to rule when it comes to being successful in that department. (Edited by fromthemorning at 2:36 pm on Nov. 8, 2004)
One thing I learned about women FTM...they like confidence. Don't sell yourself short my man...we all have something of worth to give. You never know what life will bring and everything happens for a reason.
Thanks Herbman. I have been trying to work on my self-confidence. It's hard when you have to take a snapshot of yourself, give a summary of yourself and think about who you are when everyone else around you seems to be doing something special. My main problem is that I don't have too many, or really any at all, real-life close friends that I can have to support me. I don't too many people complementing me. WHen I'm around girls, I don't act real depressed, but I am closed off. Most of the time I think it's justified, because I think most people are lame anyway. I can have a lot of self-esteem on a good day, but when you find yourself screwed over by people, forgotten, unconsidered more often than not, it's kind of discouraging. Then I start to think that I am a "loser", even though I know some really irresponsible people who treat others like ****. It seems like as long as you work and pay bills, you are legit. I don't have much to offer... I just live in my solitary world, hang in my room and hate the cold weather. I go to see bands play, occasionally hang out with my friends back where I moved from, but it's just not the same anymore. It's always been tough, but now it's just getting worse. Can you blame me for wanting to hook up with a teenage girl?
Dude, im 20 and i am exactly the same as what you are explaining. Except mine seems to be getting better. You see back when i was like 16 and ****, i had many girls approaching me and still do, but i mostly just look the other way cause of lack of self confindence. But fack man, when im back at home by myself playing video games all night when im 20 makes me realize i gotta change, and i gotta lighten up. Who carse if you hook up with em and they dont like you like they thought they would. **** happens. I look at it like this now. Do you look back into the last few years of life and see nothing important that you've done? I know i did, so i made a pact with myself to just stop being so fucking stubborn. I dont like smoking around large fgroups of people too man. In fact i hate having people in my house. But this past friday, since my parents are in CUBA i decided, **** it, i usually hate myself for never having people over for drinks and **** so i invited roughly 15 people over. Now i suffer from ANXIETY attacks from time to time, and no one knows but me, but once they were all there and i realized they all weren't just sitting there judging me. Like i used to all the time everywhere i went. I dont know if what have and what you have are similar but i do know exactly where you're coming from bro. Ive been there and still am occasionally. Letting people insult you or tease you and you dont stick up for yourself....im that way too. Not because im weak, hell i can phuck up half the people that say **** to me, but i dont like hurting people nor insulting them. Its unnessicary. They way i see it man, MEDS are not natural, they only make you realize you need man made chemicals to enjoy yourself. Just try to look at the lighter side of things. I know i do, now it does improve my mood. Also growing up my own family memebers used to tease me, so growing up hearing people say **** to me made me think well if my family insults me and my peers insult me they must be right. But infact half the people that insult you do it because they see it bothers you. If one of them does it again, tell him straight up you aint smiling and if they keep doing it, they arent going to be able top smile cause they will have swollowed their teeth. I have never been in a fight since like 14yrs old, so the anger is built up, as im sure you might be too. Just wait for that one poor sap that pushes the wrong button and take EVERYTHING out on him. Thats what im waiting for. And in fact ive already got a target i used to be freidns with but he pulls that, Insult me around everyone else so he looks important type of ****. So i told him next time i aint warning ya. Straight up sucker punch in the face followed by a choke hold till he passes out, them the time to release the anger is on!!! Free punches while hes down. And he'll know why it happended to him so he cant say sheeeeeeet. just lighten up man for real, i wear dark clothing cause i feel comfortable in em. People think im some kind of criminal, but i hold doors for women and old ladies, say thanks all the time. Just improve on the little things man, **** will pick up im tellin ya.
