Ladies of GK, help!

I've got a problem of epic proportions. I've finally found the woman that I want to be with for the rest of my life BUT she WILL NOT BUDGE on the growing pot thing when we inevedably move in together. I've got a daughter that's 3yo and she wants a child and I think that's the issue that she's looking at when she thinks about the prospect of what I want to do. Plus, she had a guy before that did indoor and outdoor growing and got raided, but he was a DICK that fucked people over and sold crack and hit her and did alot of shit that I'm just not into. AND she's a Christian!!! Yeah, a Christian!!! One of those go to church Christians!!! But the pussy's great and I love her, I bloody love her, I do!!! What am I gonna do?

How do I talk her into doing the reasonable thing. I love her and want to be with her but it would almost be a crime to not grow pot with the knowlege and skill that I've amassed! It's like fuckin Picasso retiring his brush because his wife dosen't want paint on the floor. OMG!!! That's so SELFISH!!! Forgive her Lord, for she knows not what she does!!! HELP!!! ANYONE!!! Fellas, ladies, whoever!!!

 

Hell, tell her that you're the man of the house and what you say goes. Tell her that you smoke pot and that you'll be growing pot, and that's that. Tell her that you'll do what you want to do, whenever you want to do it. You're the MAN of the house. You don't have to justify your actions and make a case to her and hope that she LETS you do it, that just undermines and weakens your natural position of authority. It essentially passes it over to her. Don't do it. Be the boss.

 

OK. I'm trying the non-Caveman approach to this relationship. It's not about being whipped or being in control. I want to bring her around to the reasonable conclusion on HER terms so she feels less like she's being dictated to but cooperating WITH me. I know that I'm not going to stop smoking or growing weed untill I'm damn ready but SHE can't know that. Remember, I love this woman. I don't want to lose her being a fucking dickwad.

 

hmmm, sounds like an interesting dilemma...


Well, you could not grow where you live with her, and she would be all the wiser?


just my 2 cents! Good Luck, man!


Peace


-LM

 

Makes semse to meassit:

 

Don't grow? Are you high?

If I don't grow where I live with her then how am I gonna grow? Over someone elses house so they can fuck my plant up leaving lights on and not keeping the air fresh. Stealing my reward just before harvest and saying, "Oh, man!!! I don't know how they got in here but they came in here and took JUST your plant, dude. Yeah! Didn't touch anything else, just your plant!' or " I just told a few people and the next thing I know the cops are at the door, they're standing in my bedroom right now looking at the plant. The detective wants to talk to you. Can you go on ahead and tell him that the plant's yours? Thanks!" Fuck no, dude! I'm not going through that shit!

 

Quite the dilemma. Myself, I grow for my WIFES consumption. I barely smoke anything if it all. I actually havent smoked in a couple weeks since looking for a new job. Even still, my wife, nor I, am completely comfortable growing at home, no one knows about it but still SHIT HAPPENS.


My only suggestion for you dude is to grow a large outdoor crop, have plots in SEVERAL different places, and grow enough outdoors to last you season to season. I know it sucks because your not as close to your plants, but IMO it is the safest way.


Anyway dude I hope it all works out for you man. And I'm glad to see your not a caveman and you ARE thinking of her, good on ya. We might be the men of the house but in any relationship you have to make compromises, even though sometimes they royally suck! Take care man, peace.

 

Grow without her approval and you're going to make 'consequences', for sure! (I think you mean 'concessions'.)


Don't be an idiot and try to conceal growing from your gf/wife. Women are vengeful! :nono5:

 

im not a lady of gk or nuttin but......... i like how you through in that the pussy was good haha :thumbsup:


edit: im sorry....that the pussy was great......on with your dilemma

 

(I just noticed this part)


I wouldn't worry too much. Bud's a DW and his Ole Lady's still with him

 

Yeah I just edited my post, it was supposed to say compromises lol

 

In the immortal words oh Thurgood Jenkins I will just say...





"I know, I know. You probably think Thurgood Jenkins sold out but let me just say I love weed. I LOVE IT!....But not as much as I love PUSSY!"





But with that being said, you gotta ask yourself, IF she doesn't budge, is it a deal breaker for your relationship? Personally, I doubt I would ever be with someone that didn't smoke or at least approve of it. Toooo many women out there that will jive with your lifestyle to consider actually giving up one of lifes most precious qualities.

 

That's basically why I'm single (haven't dated seriously since before I started growing). It's a one or the other and I choose to grow.


It's just not worth the risk, to me.

 

Well, you wanted a woman of GK's opinion, right??? Don't you have any single, close friends or family you can trust??? You could do it somewhere other than where you live with this girl. Or you can lie to her... those are your choices.


Good Luck BP!


-LM

 

Yeah, but no!!!

OK! I know, I know! But aren't there any talking points to bring up or literature that I can give her like a Jehovas Witness or somthing? I don't want or need alot of friends, the ones that I DO have are too scared or morally against doing anything like that. I hate living in the bible belt!!! Fucking sheeple!!! Indoctrinated pussies!!! You know that you COULD let me grow weed at your fucking house but noooooo!!! "OMG what if the police come? What would Jesus do?" Blow it out your ass cocksucker!!! Let me grow the fuckin weed dick-cheese!!! You fucking sweat from a homeless Mexican day laborers salty balls!!!


I'm sorry I went off on a tangit there! I just had to vent. Do you see all this hostility and disharmony her selfish attitude towards my "hobby" is causing? I deserve a Nobel Prize for enduring it! Really!

 

Okay, I'm not a GK lady,


but I'm pretty good with people. I can't guarantee anything, but the first step is to find out what her objection is. You have to keep after it. If she says "I just don't want you growin pot!" That's not an answer. Its really not. There is some reason she doesn't want it around. You need to find out what that reason is. It probably has to do with the thing you mentioned: former BF, dope dealer, bad attitude. Doesn't have to be like that. Ask if there isn't some kind of compromise and show her you're cool on pot "This is me stoned, baby . . . lets do some lovin." "can't I just grow 1? 10? 100? plants?" Maybe its the selling part of it. Personal crop is so small you can grow it in a spare closet and no one who doesn't open that closet will ever know.


Here's your homework: Find out why she's so set against it. Remember: I don't like it, I don't want you doin it, I'm a Christian, these are not answers.

 

I think the reason she doesnt want it is the fact that she has already seen what can happen when the shit does hit the fan.


Honestly, even if its something you get her to agree with, I can guarantee that shit will come back up sooner or later, women are good like that.


Plus with having a kid....Thats a lot of responsibility to take into consideration. I dont know what the laws are like, but if you get jammed up and have a kid there, not gonna be good.


I had a talk with my g/f that lives with me before I started growing. Told her everything involved, risks, ect. She was a little uncomfortable at first, but has come around. Hell, shes never done a SINGLE drug in her life, and drinks maybe once a year. I've burned with her mom before though haha.


Good luck man.....

 

Fuck her. I did.


Seriously though,pussy is a dime a dozen brah. Sounds like she's got some hangups, Hit it and quit it.

 

Oh, hell to the naw!!!

Oh god no! My childs mother is a Jehovas Witness and I had to go against her family when she was in child birth and lost too much blood. Her family was still thinking about it and shit and I told the doc to fucking give her the blood and let her hate me later. Her family was pissed! But fuck them! If they want to go and meet their maker because of somthing that's relativly easy for contemporary medical science to cure or resolve then they can go ahead but my daughter isn't growing up without her mother because of their fucking religious principles. I told them they could take their religious principles and shove them up their asses!!!